Watch the video Jon posted below before reading this post.
I wrote a paper in college 5 years ago and used some statistics on buyer’s remorse that support the same idea, less options and an inability to changes ones mind will lead to less regrets and therefore more happiness (To read a good paper not written by me on this see here).
Applied to romantic relationships this idea may contribute to the higher success rate associated with arranged marriages.
The point made about happiness being tied to “bounded ambitions” vs “unbounded ambitions” reminds me of the scripture, “Bridal all your passions, that ye may be filled with love… ( Alma 38:12 ).” It is a rewarding way to live ones life, it allows us to make room in our personal agendas for tolerance and mercy towards others.
Although I agree with the speaker I also feel there is more than just limited choice that contributes to overall happiness. I will list a few I have been thinking about:
Meaningful emotional relationships (love)
Physical attention from others
Attachment to a grand purpose (not always religious in nature)
There may be more…
6 comments:
Unbounded ambitions means many more unachieved goals, and that definetly makes people unhappy. I have this little book, it's called: The Famous Little Red Book That Makes Your Dreams Come True. I was reading through it the other day and it reminded me of your post. It has a long name, but I'm sure it is the shortest book in the world on goal accomplishment and happiness.
May I also say, stupid Jon and Jason and their stupid stupid cruise.
@Car
So I guess you're advising to set low goals as to not be disappointed. I disagree. I Think falling short of an ambitious goal is far more rewarding than achieving a modest one.
Perhaps Car was talking about all the planning and action items that are necessary in the accomplishment of a goal. Unbounded being a goal pursued without acumen and bounded a goal pursued with an abundance of acumen.
I will admit though that at first I had the same reaction Jon did to your post. Clarification would be nice.
I had to google acumen. Jack, who do you think you are?
The next Ghandi.
Clarification:
Item 1: acumen= insight.
Item 2: my meaning-
I associate the word "passions" in the context of this discussion with things like family, religion, relationships...things I feel passionately about. "Ambitions" feel less personal, like work or educational goals. Does that make sense? Anyway, when I hear "unbounded ambitions" I think of work, school, travel goals all unrelated and pulling us in conflicting directions, leaving us unable to decide or act on anything, and wreaking havoc on our ability to settle into a relationship, or set goals within our family.
So, saying unbounded ambitions are random fancies that are landed upon without much thought or personal insight would be right on with my meaning. Thanks for not understanding Jon.
One thing that isn't clear to me is how bridling our passions leads to tolerance... Clarification Jackalope.
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